By mchristie, Nov 27 2014 8:07AM
Two years ago I wrote a short story - "Christmas in Venice" - when I look at it now it gives me a shiver. It was almost like a premonition of what was to come with my husband as it deals with the emotions following a bereavement. Obviously it has my erotica spin on it! I was reminded of it after writing the previous post! You can read it for free at Literotica -
By mchristie, Nov 27 2014 8:01AM
I have received several emails asking about whether it is normal to want to make love as a response to a bereavement. I am no expert on this but as a nurse and as a writer and as an explorer of emotion and feelings, I thought it was worth looking at. Certainly making love would provide some comfort and closeness and an affirmation of life at a difficult time. I lost my husband and in the aftermath of his death I was emotionally 'all at sea' but for me I was not missing or seeking sex but was looking for an emotional connection with others who were supporting me. But everyone and every situation is different and no doubt it would depend on your relationship to who has passed away. For me, sex was not an option as my lover had died but if it had been someone else that was close to me instead, then I am absolutely certain that I would have drawn comfort from my husband in every possible way!
I found an interesting blog by J who deals very nicely with this issue - "Hot, Holy and Humorous"
By mchristie, Nov 13 2014 4:22PM
As my husband Dick was dying I asked him if I could take some photos of his hands - I always particularly loved his hands! He agreed but it made him very sad as it was flagging up the fact that his days were numbered. I have those photos now but it is very bitter sweet to look at them as I recall his upset. It is almost three months since he died and still the grief is raw and continues to trip me up at unexpected moments.
By mchristie, Nov 13 2014 4:12PM
I cried every day when the doorbell rang for the umpteenth time! I railed at some visitors and then ran out of energy to fight the next wave! They came and came and came and then came some more! and all I kept thinking of was their selfishness! It seemed to be all about them and not my dear husband because he DID NOT WANT THEM!!! he was sick, in pain and dying - can you think of a worse time to socialise with anybody????? Michele you deserve a medal of some kind, probably for bravery and for appealing to commonsense (your advice) PLEASE LISTEN TO THE MESSAGE FOLKS!!
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